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Dad is always more sick than mom

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If you’re married,  I’m sure that you have dealt with a sick husband. In the beginning you feel it is your duty to take care of your precious baby (those of you that have been married for some time know this is an understatement) husband while he is sick.

Then you have children, and you become “Mom.”

From this point on, there is no more sickness for you. You’re Mom; you can’t be sick.


This means when you are under the weather, you suck it up, you put your big girl panties on, and you deal.


You, as Mom, don’t have the option to fall asleep on the couch when you become ill because who knows what you will wake up to your children doing… flushing things, coloring your walls with a sharpie that your oldest child left laying in the floor, eating junk food in the closet while leaving a crumb trail, pulling the trash out, and so forth, all while your husband watches the football game and pretends  knows (bc lets face it men are oblivious) of nothing happening.

You can’t take that chance, so you do what you have to do.


Then you think to yourself, “but he shouldn’t get sick anymore either, and if he does he should suck it up, just like this momma does.” Unfortunately that is not the case with men. When men feel that they are coming down with something, you must know about it and have sympathy because clearly they are “dying” (so they think). Their whole world stops, and they think that yours should as well.

So.. Mommas, how do we not hit our sick husbands over the head when we have had enough? 

  • Pray First. Pray for your husband. Pray not only for his healing but pray for him. We, as wives, have so much power in our prayers for our husbands. I learned so much more on this topic when I read  The Power of a Praying Wife. I strongly suggest reading and praying the prayers shared in it.
  •  Remember that men are wired differently from women. Different doesn’t mean difficult. They may actually feel like they are dying, so we must have sympathy for them (as hard as that can be when you have the same cold and are dealing with your children, laundry, and cleaning as he lays in the bed). God shows us sympathy when we are undeserving, and we are to strive to be more like Him, so try it. Also, just because he handles it differently than you do doesn’t mean he is difficult. You just have to look at it the way God would.
  • Remember that he is your husband whom you vowed to love in sickness and in health. You love your husband, remember that even when you want to ring his neck. 1 Corinthians 7:39 “A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives..” Take a deep breath and just baby love him through his needs.
  • Remember that he is also God’s child. God loves your husband, even when you are annoyed with him. You have to learn to love your husband the same way that God does.
  • Give praise, where praise is due. I don’t know about your husband, but my husband is the hardest working man I know. He may get sick once in a blue moon. Remember that when the blue moon comes.

 

We can’t change the fact that men get sick, and their colds will always be worse than the same cold we have.  What we can change is how we respond. We can respond with positivity and love, which is the same response God shows you every day.


2 Timothy 2:23-24 “Again, I say, don’t get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights. A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people.”


 

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