“Oh, you’re a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom), it must be nice to sit at home all day”
If you’re a SAHM, I’m sure that you have heard this and if you’re not, I’m sure you have had thoughts of just sitting at home. Most women, like myself, hate hearing this from others, but especially men. Men think we just sit around doing nothing all day. Like their job is SO much more important than ours. (side note: totally understand they are the hardworking “bread winners” and support us financially, but our jobs are very important as well. We are shaping our children into adults.) How could we possibly be tired from sitting around all day while they did physical labor at their job? The truth is – we would love to tell them – here is food for thought: Our jobs NEVER stop. We NEVER get a day off. We work 24/7.
- You get to do whatever, whenever – •“EH, WRONG” We do what we have to do. We care for our family and our home. We don’t get sick days.•
- Your house must be SO clean – •“EH WRONG” Try cleaning house with a toddler tornado behind you, or better yet a stealth ninja toddler who is quietly flushing your phone, your car keys, and everything else in the house for that matter. Ok, so yes, there is nap time.. I do tend to clean at nap time, but as soon as the sassy toddler awakes, it’s a room filled with toys, crumbs, and sticky messes everywhere. •
- You have so much time – •Again, “EH, WRONG” Time is of the essence and when you have children that are schedule-oriented (IMO all children are), you have to do things on their time.
I became a SAHM a few months ago and also started taking college classes. Laundry, cleaning, making sure my toddler doesn’t eat anymore vitamins, trying to teach her what she needs to be learning, and going to school is a lot for one mom to do with the short time that is in the day.
“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters” Colossians 3:23
The truth is, we are all here on Earth to do the same job and that is to lead others home (to Jesus). So, whatever we do we must remember that we are working for the Lord, not for people. We can’t become bitter or resentful of others and the path God has lead them to. We must be joyful and do the works of the Lord because after all we are God’s workmanship.
So, how should we as SAHM’s be stress-free and joyful even when we feel unappreciated by others?
- Know who you are in Christ Jesus: You are loved, worthy, strong, capable, etc. – but you will believe the lie of the enemy if you don’t know what God really said! Get in the word, read His truth (if you, like me are not a “open the bible and read” type person, Jesus calling and Let your light shine are great devotions that I recommend. A fellow blogger, Kristin Funston wrote in Let your light shine, and she is wonderful.
- Lower your expectations of Earth – Stop looking for affirmation in people, when Jesus is the only one who can give you the fulfillment you are looking for because people will fail you every time.
- Keep your heart set on heaven – This world is just a breath. Our time here is short, but take hope – we have eternity through Jesus. 2 Corinthians 4:16-18 says “Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”
The truth in the matter is we just want others to notice us and appreciate us, but God already does.
So I say to you: stop looking for approval of people, and start seeing yourself the way God sees you, His.